Yesterday I received an email from one of dad’s companions. She had been to visit dad last week and helped him get ready for a luncheon outing with his Assisted Living Facility (ALF). He was wearing his slippers.
His companion tried to locate shoes for him as it is cold and wintry outside. She only found one pair of shoes (all he has, I think) but he refused to put them on. She wanted to know if he had other shoes. She asked the ALF staff about this and was told that dad had worn his slippers on the last outing as well.
I don’t understand how they let him go out in wintry weather wearing only his slippers. I know that dad has problems with his toenails. He sees a podiatrist every few months. I am wondering if maybe his toenails hurt when he wears his shoes. Otherwise I can’t think of a reason he can’t wear the shoes he has.
It just seems to me that someone at his ALF would have contacted me about the fact that dad won’t wear his shoes, even when he is going on trips in the ALF van. I guess that is why I have the companions checking in on him!
My son and I bought dad those shoes 2 years ago. Dad wouldn’t come with us to the shoe store, so we made 3 trips before we finally got a pair that fit him comfortably. The style was exactly the same as his old shoes and they were from a well known shoe manufacturer. I thought he liked those shoes.
I sent an email to the director of his assisted living facility yesterday asking if they knew any reason he couldn’t wear his shoes. I asked them to check and see if his toenail problem was the issue. However, I didn’t get any answer from the ALF and now it is the weekend, so I will have to wait until Monday before I can try to call them.
I also asked my son to check with dad when he visits on Sunday. My son has a good relationship with his grandfather and can maybe find out what the issue is.
It is times like this when I find it difficult to be so far away! I like to be able to visit dad myself and see what is going on. I haven’t reached dad by phone since I learned about this problem. He is not good about answering the phone and frequently he just isn’t in his room.