Sunday when I saw dad, my son and grandson were there also. My grandson was quiet to begin with as he had gotten up at 6 AM and was sleepy by the time we were all with dad. Still, after awhile he became more animated and talked a lot and played games on my iPad.
I showed my grandson the Mickey Mouse app that I recently installed on the iPad. Some old Mickey Mouse videos started to play. My grandson lost interest, but dad and his lady friend were watching it so I handed dad the iPad for awhile.
Dad mentioned on Sunday that he would like to go out to a fish restaurant because he really felt like having some shrimp. I told him I would take him next time as I knew he liked shrimp. But did he remember we just were there on Thursday? No, he didn’t remember, though after thinking about it he thought maybe he did remember. I hate that he forgets the good times that we have, but still I am glad we get out and have good times.
Tuesday when I visited dad, he was sitting next to his lady friend. There were no extra chairs as they seemed to be doing some painting and had removed some of the chairs. His lady friend got up and gave me her seat. She went over to a man sitting alone in a single chair and said she wanted to sit with him.
He asked if she wanted to move to the sofa as he couldn’t sit with her on a single chair. She agreed to that and sat by him on the other sofa while I visited with dad on the loveseat where he had been sitting all along. It was an odd thing to me as it seemed like the lady didn’t want to sit by herself at all – she needed to be by a man! Dad didn’t react to that, though earlier he had held tight to my hand and told me he was really missing my mom.
For the most part dad is doing well. I tend to forget that he is still grieving for mom, but after over 70 years of marriage it is hard for him to be without her. His lady friend keeps him company, but even when she is right beside him, he sometimes still misses mom!
I want to note here that I will be taking a blogging break for the next 2 weeks. I will be spending the time with my children and grandchildren.