Last Sunday when I went to visit dad, I brought along some items for him. I met dad in the lounge and told him I was there but that I would be putting some things in his room first before I sat down to visit with him.
I brought a grocery bag with me as I went to dad’s room. I opened the door and was surprised to find a man in dad’s Lazy Boy chair. I had seen him before in the halls and in the lunchroom but we never had talked. This man is younger than most of the Assisted Living residents but has mobility issues.
He uses a motorized scooter/chair to get around. He is also developmentally disabled and doesn’t usually have conversations with the other residents. He can talk and I believe he lived independently for many years, but now has been at the same ALF as dad for at least a year or two.
I asked him why he was in dad’s chair and he said he didn’t know and then he tried to get up. However, his motorized chair was in dad’s bedroom and I didn’t think he could stand up and walk over to it. I have no idea how he got to dad’s chair. I tried to move his motorized scooter to him but couldn’t figure how to get it turned on. I almost tried to help him get up but realized I couldn’t because he was bigger and heavier than I.
Instead I went to the wellness center and asked for an aide to help him. One of the aides went to dad’s room and soon got him back into his scooter and he was independently coming out the door.
Unfortunately, as I approached the wellness center, dad was coming towards me with his walker. He had decided to return to his room. I told him to wait as I didn’t want him to go into his room with the walker while the other man was trying to get out on his scooter.
Dad was annoyed, but waited and soon we were able to enter his room. Then dad settled down in his Lazy Boy but he made some comments about the other man. The other man had a room about 2 doors down from dad’s, but apparently he just got confused and went into the wrong room. Since each resident brings his own furniture, I’m surprised that he didn’t realize he was in the wrong room.
After that episode, dad settled down and soon we heard voices as my son and grandson approached. They usually come to visit dad on Sundays and it was a good time for them to arrive. Dad got distracted from his annoyance with the other man in his room, and my grandson was happy to talk and play.
After that we had a more normal visit and hopefully dad forgot about the stranger in his room. My grandson chatted a lot and played with my iPad. He has favorite apps he likes to use and dad just likes to watch my grandson play.
At the end of that visit, we walked with dad to the dining room for lunch as we usually do. By the time I saw dad again 2 days later, dad didn’t mention anything about his unexpected visitor. I am glad that dad is able to forget about some events so he won’t worry about them.