This week dad is doing very well. On Monday he again had a visit from the companion who brings her husband. Dad enjoys having a male visitor, I think.
His Tuesday companion took him to Happy Hour. There was only one seat left at the table – and it was right next to the man with whom he had the altercation a few weeks ago. Dad said he wanted to take his drink back to his room.
His companion asked why he didn’t want to take the empty seat and he said it was because there was no seat for her. That could also have been true, but I believe he remembers enough to avoid trouble.
She had also brought him bakery goods that he had requested and he ate some in his room. Dad asked his companion if she had any children. Her only son had died suddenly shortly before Christmas. She told dad about her son and dad told her about his wife (mom). They agreed that mom and her son were having a good time together in Heaven (but they weren’t drinking!)
She got dad to take a walk (which is something I am not usually able to get him to do!) and by the time they got back to the lounge it was too late to begin their usual game of checkers. She said the time went very fast. I was so encouraged about how she can keep dad talking and walking when often I can barely get him to stay awake!
When his Wednesday companion telephoned me to tell me about their visit, she said it was extremely cold there now (though dad remains mostly unaware of that because he stays inside). They talked a long time about her animals and the additional new babies and he was really engaged in the conversation. I thought about how lucky dad is to be stimulated by several different companions. I hope I can keep him engaged as well when I get home!
This week I had received a bill from dad’s ALF and I noticed that again it didn’t show any charges for a haircut. That would mean dad has gone at least 2 months without a haircut! I asked his companion if dad’s hair was getting long and she said yes. She said he looked good, clean-shaven, etc. but his hair was getting long.
After that conversation I sent an email to the Director of dad’s ALF and I requested that she have him scheduled for a haircut the next time the hair dresser comes in. The beauty shop is only open one day a week and I think that was yesterday, so it will be another week before it gets done. I reminded the Director that I had requested that he have his hair cut once a month on a regular schedule.
Actually I asked for this several times in the past and again just before I left for my winter vacation. I hope it doesn’t get overlooked again. I think dad doesn’t really care, but he is treated better when we go out to eat or to his doctor if he looks well kept up. I have some medical appointments scheduled for dad in April, so I know I will be taking him out. Also if the weather improves, I will be taking him out to lunch in April as well.
While I know that is a month away, I don’t see why they are neglecting his haircuts while I am away. I think it is “out of sight – out of mind”, and I want them to remember to do the things I had requested, even if I am not there!
All in all, I am very satisfied with the care dad is getting from his companions. And it helps me feel included when they contact me each day after a visit with him. I know he misses me. He asks on every phone call where I am and when I will be home. But if I ask if he is OK with that, he always says yes, I should have a good time.