I called dad’s ALF this afternoon as I had not received any word about his blood test results. Was I ever surprised when the nurse said “What blood test?” She thought I was referring to the one from over a week ago because somehow they forgot all about the blood tests the doctor had ordered for Friday morning.
The nurse said she would call me back and in the meantime I guess she looked in the file and called the doctor. She then called me to say dad’s blood would be drawn tomorrow. The doctor had said she wanted more extensive blood tests for (last) Friday, so hopefully those will all be done with tomorrow’s sample.
So now I am still waiting to know what is really happening with dad. I am frustrated and edgy and unable to concentrate on other plans. Everything seems to depend on if dad is sick or if he is OK before I am ready to make other plans – even haircut appointments and medical appointments for myself.
I have also been thinking more about last Friday’s meeting with the doctor, dad, me and the staff from his ALF. I feel frustrated that I did not get a chance to talk to the doctor alone – without ALF staff present. I know I have the right to do that, but somehow everything was orchestrated by his ALF to keep them totally present. Yet, the nurse was not so focused that she even remembered to do the follow-up blood test.
I need to keep my own focus the next time I meet with dad’s doctor. I want to talk to her about planning dad’s future and what would happen if he had to leave the ALF. For now I am waiting for the results from his urologist as well. After I learn that and the blood test results, I hope to be able to have time for a normal discussion without rushing dad to the hospital, etc.
The doctor dad would see in the hospital would not be his usual doctor. They have a “hospitalist” doctor from the same practice who is always in the hospital. His personal doctor never makes hospital visits. I don’t like this system but as I mentioned in a previous post, it is becoming a common way for doctors to practice.
Dad needs continuity of care and I need to be the one to find a way for that to happen.
Again, thank you all for your support. I will keep you updated as I am able.