Lately I have been taking dad out for lunch each week. Usually we go to the same family restaurant because they have the shrimp that he likes. Each time he forgets that he has to choose 2 sides. He looks at the list and it looks new to him each time.
He almost always orders French fries. But the 2nd side dish is less of a sure thing. Lately he has asked about the soup a few times. This week he chose French Onion soup. When the waiter brought it to him, he looked down at it and looked at me with a question in his eyes.
I will admit the soup looked strange as it had melted cheese on it and it looked yucky like a muddy pond. “What the Hell is that?” he said. I laughed and told him it was his French Onion soup.
He put in his spoon and as he lifted it to his mouth the mozzarella cheese stretched between the soup dish and his mouth. He spun the spoon to get the cheese to stop dragging. He had some challenges with it but he persevered. He said the soup was hot, but he kept eating it.
All in all dad has been doing fairly well so far this year. However, he often won’t eat the lunch they give him at his ALF. He asks for toast instead. But when I take him out, he always eats very well. This week he ate most of his soup and most of his shrimp and part of his French Fries.
The only problem is that dad always wears his light jacket while indoors and it always has traces of his last meal on it. I have started bringing his jacket home with me after each visit so I can wash it.
Finally I decided to go to eBay and find another jacket exactly like the one he wears all the time. I found something fairly close and brought it to him this week. Now he will have one jacket to wear while I wash the other. (He does get his laundry done by his ALF, but they only do a basket of laundry once a week.)
I also have been cleaning dad’s kitchen and end table more than I used to. I find he has spilled his orange juice or cola on the kitchen counter or his end table and he just leaves it there. Then when I arrive there is this sticky spot, so I start each visit by cleaning up after him.