Recently dad was seen by the NP from his physician’s office who diagnosed the lump in his arm as a sebaceous cyst. She will check it again in 3 months. In the meantime the aides are to continue to follow it when they help him in the shower. I don’t know if she checked on his rash or not since it was on the upper side of the same arm.
I noticed yesterday that dad’s rash is worse as he continues to scratch at it. He also asked if I could have them cut his nails. Since it was Sunday, I asked one of the aides about it, but then also emailed the nurse about these issues when I got home. I was afraid I would forget by Tuesday when she will be in the office again.
Dad continues to be about the same. I feel he is doing very well, but my son commented on Sunday about how grandpa asked the same question three times in quick succession. I guess I am used to that now, but it does remind me that dad’s memory is getting worse even while he seems stable to me.
When I was visiting dad last week I also noticed that his polo shirt had a missing button and even worse, there was a hole where the button would have been attached to the shirt. I asked dad about it but he hadn’t noticed. I went back to his room to see his other shirts, and sure enough another shirt had a large piece missing from the collar.
It looked to me like the washing machine or the dryer at his assisted living facility has begun to catch onto his clothing. In fact, I would comment that the “dryer ate his clothes”! I took the second shirt to the nurse, who is also the one in charge of about everything else since this is such a small facility. I pointed out that the shirt dad was wearing was also damaged.
Then I decided I had to go shopping for more shirts for dad. One by one, I have been bringing home shirts that had missing buttons or other problems. He also sometimes buttons the regular cotton shirts incorrectly so that the buttons don’t line up, or he just leaves the bottom 3 buttons undone. I went shopping with my daughter on Saturday and we both were fairly successful with the holiday weekend sales.
I picked out 4 polo shirts for dad – 2 each at 2 different stores, and my daughter bought school clothes for her son. I brought dad two yesterday to have him try them on before I ironed his name onto all of them. It was while changing his shirt that I noticed his rash. Dad doesn’t like to try on clothing, but he only had an undershirt underneath a long-sleeved shirt he was wearing open like a sweater.
The shirt fit well so yesterday I washed the other two shirts and ironed his name tags onto them. Tomorrow I will bring home the first 2 shirts to put name tags on them also. Usually they don’t lose his clothing but I like to be sure to mark new clothing with his name. They do each resident’s laundry separately, but they have about 10 laundry baskets stacked in the laundry room each day. I think the washing is actually done overnight by the night staff.
One problem with the laundry is that they put all his clothing into one machine and I think it is overloaded. The colored clothing runs onto the whites and things don’t come as clean as they should. I often bring home his jacket to wash myself so he won’t have to go a day without it, but I am not ready to start bringing home all his laundry.
When dad was first at this ALF, he had a red sweatshirt. Soon he had pink underwear and pink-tinted shirts as well. I brought that sweatshirt home and gave it away. It wasn’t worth the chance that they would do the same thing again.
These are small problems in the day-to-day life of an assisted living resident. Still, the issues build up. I try to keep my complaints to a minimum, but yet I need to make sure they are aware of the problems.
Also this week I received a notice in the mail that dad’s rent is going up by 5% again in October. This was not a total surprise as I think it has gone up about the same amount every year. Still, it does add up and there is nothing I can do about it. I just keep watch over his accounts and hope dad’s money lasts as long as he does!